I've had trust issues with females for a very long time. I'm sure this started at a young age when I was impacted by the lying, backstabbing, two-faced friends that I aligned myself with. I've always been drawn to mean girls for some reason.
This has been my story up until very recently. All I've gotten from these mean girl relationships is hurt, anger and a lower sense of myself. I've given up all that I thought I was just to be friends with the "cool kids."
As you can tell from my blogs, I've had a crappy year. But the silver lining this year is my girlfriends, especially two of them, Danielle and Jessie. These two gals have been angels in disguise. They are selfless, caring, giving of their hearts and time, and hurt when I hurt.
Today we spent the day shopping and just being girls. I'm not sure I've ever done this before. I've been perfectly fine spending all my time with my husband. I'm not discounting this relationship, but I've learned that if done correctly, friendships with girls are very much needed in a girls life.
So here's what I'm thinking: It's not important who your friends are or how they are perceived in your circle (whether it's school, workplace, church, etc.). It's important how much you need each other. It's not important how many friends you've accumulated or how many friends are listed on your Facebook. How many of them would cry tears for your pain, rejoice when you've done something better for yourself, tell you the truth about a bad decision you're about to make, encourage your dreams?
Take the time to reflect on who it is in your life that's worth investing time in. But make sure it's mutual. Don't waste your energy on the energy suckers (you know the ones: you try and try and don't get anything back).
A good friend is cheaper than therapy -Author unknown
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